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Queer Activism – Being the Change

People ask me constantly why I blog. What’s my purpose, what’s my niche, what do I do with this little corner of the web I’ve created. And the answer is really simple when I step back and look at it. I’m embodying the adage “be the change you wish to see in the world.” There’s so much BS in the world, so much inequality and horrid treatment of everyone who doesn’t fit into a very specific neat ...
Lifestyle

Why Lipstick Lesbian is a Problematic Phrase

  It’s National Lipstick Day which means it’s time for me to smash some more ideas and thoughtless ideas. Today we’re tackling the phrase “lipstick lesbian” and why it’s so problematic and why you really shouldn’t use it ever. Like, ever again. It’s antiquated and heteronormative af. It comes from this heteronormative need to label and classify everything that mainstream society ...
Lifestyle, Style

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Is style political? Absolutely. When we get dressed in the morning, the clothing we put on is the armour we wear to face the world. It can (and should be!)  be a means of self expression, but it often also makes a political statement. When a certain famed talk show host tells the world that you shouldn’t wear a crop top if you have a tummy, any time a tummy owner wears one they are making a statement in direct contrast. Any time Alok ...
Lifestyle

3 Ways to Address your Stress | Stress Awareness Month

April is Stress Awareness Month With all of my #RealTalk about mental health and my dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression, it only makes sense to talk about this with you! Enter Shemiah Derrick, MA, who reached out via Instagram. She’s a therapist in the Chicago area and she’s basically amazing. So when she reached out about working together to spread our respective messages about mental health, of course I jumped right on ...
Lifestyle

12 Ways to Celebrate Earth Day Every Day

Happy Earth Day! Today is one of my favorite days of the year because, for at least 24 hours, significantly more people are aware of the impact they have on the environment and actively work to lessen that impact. But Earth Day is only one of 365 days. What if everyone did as much as they do on Earth Day every single day of the year? Think of how much difference we could make. I’ve got 12 ways you can celebrate Earth Day every day and make ...
Lifestyle, Style

Wife Life | Body Positivity and Mass Media

I Feel Pretty (But Only After a Concussion) – Body Positivity isn’t a Joke Recently, trailers for a new Amy Schumer movie have taken over my social feeds. The movie — which I’m not linking because I don’t want to give them the views or traffic– focuses on Schumer’s character hitting her head in a SoulCycle class and suddenly seeing herself as beautiful and being confident in her body for the first time, despite being ...
Lifestyle

My Femme Isn’t Weak. Your Inability to Accept it is.

My Femme Isn’t Weak. Your Inability to Accept it is. In my teen and college years, I dated men. I know, the most vocal, confident, and proud lesbian of them all dated men. Would you believe it’s because I thought I was supposed to? Sure I knew I wasn’t entirely straight. I mean have you seen Kiera Knightley? [fans self] But I didn’t fit into any of the stereotypes I’d seen of queer women. I wasn’t the proud owner of a closet of flannels, I ...
Lifestyle

What I’m Currently Reading and Listening To

Somehow, despite all of the work I’m constantly doing, I still find time to sit and read, listen to podcasts, and watch television. Mind, when I say TV I mean Netflix. Our TV is hooked up to the internet and that’s it. And, honestly, that’s how I prefer it. But I digress… I always have people asking what I’m reading, watching, and generally consuming. So here’s a look into what’s on my radar ...
Lifestyle, Style

Women’s History Month and Femme Identity | Celebrating ALL Women

It’s Women’s History Month! Over at Stile.Foto.Cibo we love celebrating Women’s History Month, but our team is made up of cisgendered women, so it’s a celebration created with us in mind. And that’s alright! Women’s history is definitely something to celebrate. It’s a long and arduous road that we’ve come down to get where we are, and there’s still a long road ahead of us  to get where we deserve to be. A large part of the oppression of ...
Lifestyle

14 Valentine’s Day Date Ideas that Don’t Suck

  Real talk, Valentine’s Day kind of sucks, especially for queer couples. With all this corporate heteronormativity everywhere and the idea that you have to spend loads of money to do the day properly, expectations get unreasonably high too quickly and nobody has a good time. So throw away the fancy dinner, flowers, chocolates, etc. and plan a date you’ll both actually enjoy. 14 Valentine’s Day Date Ideas that Don’t Suck ...