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National Coming Out Day: A Guide for Allies and Queers Alike

Fierce Femme earrings by Feminist Speakeasy Coming Out is Hard I shared my own coming out story last year for National Coming Out Day. And as someone who is out as part of my blogging life, that’s a relatively easy story for me to share. But for others, it can be really really hard or even unsafe to come out. So this year, I’ve crafted a guide with the help of my queer fam to help you if you’re coming out, or if someone ...
Lifestyle

Wife Life | Bisexual Visibility Day

Hey y’all! It’s Ari, back with another Wife Life takeover for Bisexual Visibility Day! I’ve talked before about identifying as bisexual/queer, and this day is really important to me. Why, you ask? I’m so glad.  For me, bisexual visibility is about combating stereotypes. For many years, I stayed in the closet despite crushes on different genders, and dated only men because it was easier. In that time, I had two serious ...
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Chicago House Speaker Series Coming Soon!

I teased about an interview about the Chicago House Speaker Series in yesterday’s Fashionably Femme post with Janessa. We sat down to talk about Chicago House as an organization, the event, and the process of selecting speakers, and more. I can’t wait for you to learn about this AMAZING organization and equally amazing speaker series. Read on! Stile.Foto.Cibo: Tell me about Chicago house. Its mission, past work, future plans, ...
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Rational Creatures – Jane Austen meets YouTube in a Queer Adaptation of Persuasion

I’ve got a really exciting project to share with you today! And a little call to action to help make it happen. Are you into web series projects? Do you love woman-powered projects? Do you love when classic works of literature are given a queer spin? If you answered yes to any of these questions, I’ve got an awesome project for you! Rational Creatures is a modernized web series inspired by Jane Austen’s Persuasion. The ...
Lifestyle

National Dog Day – Why Dogs are the Best Pets Ever

It’s National Dog Day! Which might as well be Christmas for me. It’s no secret that my dogs are my LIFE. I mean come on, I have a tattoo of Zoe’s paw print on my arm! But I haven’t really properly introduced the girls to the blog. So I’m going to take a second to do that now as a way to honor them for National Dog Day. I’ve got their adoption stories and some fun facts about each of them.     Are you a dog ...
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Kendra Gives Back – Event to benefit the Youth Empowerment Performance Project (YEPP)

I’ve got an event coming up! On Wednesday August 29th from 6-8 pm, I will be at the Kendra Scott on Southport Ave in Chicago hosting a Kendra Gives Back to support one of my favorite LGBTQ Youth organizations, the Youth Empowerment Performance Project, or YEPP. The mission of YEPP is to create a safe environment for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer youth experiencing homelessness to explore their history, investigate new ...
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Queer Activism – Being the Change

People ask me constantly why I blog. What’s my purpose, what’s my niche, what do I do with this little corner of the web I’ve created. And the answer is really simple when I step back and look at it. I’m embodying the adage “be the change you wish to see in the world.” There’s so much BS in the world, so much inequality and horrid treatment of everyone who doesn’t fit into a very specific neat ...
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Why Lipstick Lesbian is a Problematic Phrase

  It’s National Lipstick Day which means it’s time for me to smash some more ideas and thoughtless ideas. Today we’re tackling the phrase “lipstick lesbian” and why it’s so problematic and why you really shouldn’t use it ever. Like, ever again. It’s antiquated and heteronormative af. It comes from this heteronormative need to label and classify everything that mainstream society ...
Lifestyle, Style

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Is style political? Absolutely. When we get dressed in the morning, the clothing we put on is the armour we wear to face the world. It can (and should be!)  be a means of self expression, but it often also makes a political statement. When a certain famed talk show host tells the world that you shouldn’t wear a crop top if you have a tummy, any time a tummy owner wears one they are making a statement in direct contrast. Any time Alok ...
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3 Ways to Address your Stress | Stress Awareness Month

April is Stress Awareness Month With all of my #RealTalk about mental health and my dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression, it only makes sense to talk about this with you! Enter Shemiah Derrick, MA, who reached out via Instagram. She’s a therapist in the Chicago area and she’s basically amazing. So when she reached out about working together to spread our respective messages about mental health, of course I jumped right on ...