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Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

Is style political?

Absolutely. When we get dressed in the morning, the clothing we put on is the armour we wear to face the world. It can (and should be!)  be a means of self expression, but it often also makes a political statement. When a certain famed talk show host tells the world that you shouldn’t wear a crop top if you have a tummy, any time a tummy owner wears one they are making a statement in direct contrast. Any time Alok Viad-Menon dresses, they make a bold statement of self expression that can (and does) actively make transphobes uncomfortable (Have you heard the verbal abuse they endure? Stand up for people, don’t let anyone endure that ish).

But it doesn’t have to be that big. Any time I go out of the house in sweatpants I’m making a statement. I’m telling the world that their standards of beauty and being put together are crap and I’m going to wear whatever I darn well please. When I wear sneakers with a dress, I deny the idea that heels are the only acceptable pairing for dresses. When I dress up as my highest femme and show my queer, I slowly work at erasing that femme invisibility we all work so hard to eradicate.

What you wear and how you wear it directly makes that statement.

Even walking the dogs in trash clothing says “Do not mess with me or I will bite you worse than my dogs ever could.” Clothing with spikes? You bet those spikes actively tell the world to back off. And it’s wonderful. Wear your spikes with pastel pink, wear combat boots with a sundress, make whatever pairings you want to tell the world who you are, what you’re about, and where you stand.

Style as Politics at Pride

One of the best examples of fashion as politics is the looks you will see at Pride. I’m crafting mine right now and all I’ve come up with so far is a crochet rainbow bikini top but that alone is going to make such a statement. I’m here, I’m queer, and this is openly and unfalteringly me. Also it’s hot af and I’m refusing to wear more clothing than strictly necessary.

Femme Style as Politics in Every Day

As femmes, when we get dressed, we show the world that their stereotypes of gender and sexuality are entirely incorrect. We show the world that our clothing has no reflection on who we are attracted to, our gender identity, or anything else. “You don’t look gay,” “You’re too pretty to be gay,” and other such statements feed into that stereotypical belief. We go out into the world being ourselves, nothing more or less, and take these societal perceptions of what it means to be queer, what it means to be femme, and we tell the world that their interpretations are wrong.

So what do we do?

We keep on keeping on. We take that knowledge that we are an attitude and a political statement and we take it out into the world. We smash the stereotypes and we wear our femme as a badge of honor and courage. We stand up for each other when another deals with street harassment. We build each other up and speak up and out. And we remember that we are not alone. Our style is as unique as each of us and we should celebrate it.

Femme Style as Politics and Attitude | My Outfit is My Statement

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  1. Caitlin | Beauty & Colour

    2018-05-06 at 12:10 am

    Totally agree that what you wear makes a big statement about you!

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      2018-05-07 at 7:11 pm

      Right?! Which can go so many ways, too. You’re making huge statements, just watch that what you’re saying is what you mean!

  2. liz

    2018-05-06 at 5:35 am

    Great Blog Post!! I think you are spot on. Fashion and Beauty are how women can express themselves and make a statement 🙂


      2018-05-07 at 7:10 pm

      I would even take that one step further – Fashion and beauty are how all people express themselves!

  3. Renee

    2018-05-06 at 12:18 pm

    Love that blazer! And I completely agree about making a statement. It’s a wonderful way to express yourself.


      2018-05-07 at 7:11 pm

      Thank you! It’s not only self expression, if we’re being honest. It’s self validation and preservation as well.

  4. Lydia D'Antonio

    2018-05-06 at 4:47 pm

    I love how you attack such an important topic with such confidence and flare! Love the hot pink blazer too!!


      2018-05-07 at 7:12 pm

      Hey, someone’s gotta, right?! Thanks for stopping by!

  5. Briana

    2018-05-07 at 1:45 pm

    I love when fashion is an outright statement! Great post, it is about what you put out into the world!


  6. Nicole

    2018-05-07 at 1:46 pm

    Love your blazer! I love your words of encouragement!


      2018-05-07 at 7:09 pm

      Thank you! And thanks for stopping by!

  7. Jamie

    2018-05-07 at 6:58 pm

    So….which host made the mid drft comment? While I do believe in wearing what you want how you want it, there is also a time and place for certain things and certain situations where you still have to abide by fashion rules to an extent. I know I’m trying to work you the courage and confidence to wear a crop top (and I have a bigger stomach than you) I wouldn’t wear one to an interview. If you like spikes, maybe take a studded bag to the interview.


      2018-05-07 at 7:08 pm

      July 2015, Oprah Magazine said only folks with flat stomachs should try crop tops. yikes!
      I definitely agree there. We have to keep a certain decorum in how we dress for situations. Crop tops to interviews is a great example. I like to reference white to weddings, too! Unless it’s super nontraditional and the couple is foregoing traditional wear, that is. But I think those are less fashion rules and more a need for common sense going into situations.

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