Women’s History Month and Femme Identity | Celebrating ALL Women
It’s Women’s History Month!
Over at Stile.Foto.Cibo we love celebrating Women’s History Month, but our team is made up of cisgendered women, so it’s a celebration created with us in mind. And that’s alright! Women’s history is definitely something to celebrate. It’s a long and arduous road that we’ve come down to get where we are, and there’s still a long road ahead of us to get where we deserve to be.
A large part of the oppression of women has been society not respecting femininity. And, ya know, Patriarchy. The usual funsies. So this Women’s History month, I’m celebrating all femmes regardless of gender. If you want to be celebrated this month, then you are celebrated this month. You are all welcome at my table and you can (and should) be celebrated here.
If you’re a cisgendered woman wondering why this is important, all I can do is remind you that it’s not what’s in your pants that makes you a woman. It’s what’s in your heart, your mind, and your soul. So I encourage you to celebrate your sisters, not just your cis-ters, be they gender non-conforming folx that express themselves in a feminine manner or male-identified femmes. We’re all celebrated here.
The term femme means so many different things to every single person you discuss it with. For some, it’s entirely a form of subversion. It’s an “othering” in an incredibly positive way. For others, it’s an entire lifestyle built around not only femininity within sexuality but one’s ability to care for and nurture others, along with more traditional, and entirely non-traditional, forms of femininity. Some have a harder femme, an edgy yet distinctly feminine vibe. There are so many varying definitions of femme that make up this great community. We are inherently a community built on the concept of subversion, of taking the expectation placed upon us as queers, as general members of society, and as humans and turning that expectation on its head. For me, it goes back to the statement “you’re too pretty to be gay,” which just makes me smoke at the ears. For others, it’s crafting an entirely new identity for themselves. It’s taking the outward expectation and saying “or… I could just do whatever I want and screw your expectations.”
Stay tuned this Women’s History Month for more celebrations of women and femmes. Comment below with your Women and Femme heroes!