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Sarah of Fat.Fem.Flawless | Fashionably Femme

Sarah Graywood, Fat.Fem.Flawless

Sarah Graywood, Fat.Fem.Flawless

Sarah Graywood, Fat.Fem.Flawless

WELCOME! 

Welcome to Fashionably Femme. Fashionably Femme is a blog series featuring femmes from all nooks of the LGBTQIA community. These rocking folks are activists, educators, bosses, parents, entrepreneurs, and all sorts of amazing human beings. Join me as we explore femme as so much more than a label but truly a way of life.

Meet Sarah! You may have seen her on Instagram at fat.fem.flawless. This Cali transplant is rocking it in Chicago, sharing her plus sized style, and showing off how truly flawless she is.

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My style has been in flux lately due to the major growth in options for plus size women that has hit the market in the past couple of years, but my current style really gravitates to 1940’s silhouettes that play with bright colors and patterns, largely accented with gold jewelry or pearls. My style really reflects not only my identity as a femme in the highly feminine and playful way that I choose to interact and take risks with fashion but also reflects my identity as a woman of color, and specifically as a Puerto Rican woman. My aunt, who passed away recently, used to always wear these house dresses in the prettiest colors and prints with big jewelry and usually some sort of accessories in her long black hair. I used to always admire how beautiful her dresses were and how easily she wore them. I think my aunt and my grandma were really my first style influences who made me want to participate in fashion, both extremely feminine, both plus size women, both bad ass mujeres. Lately my mom has actually been inspiring the hell out of me as well, she just recently started on her own personal style journey and I am loving watching her play with clothing and really enjoy her own clothing and body. Fashion should make you happy and watching my mom being happy in her clothes in the last couple of years has been one of the most wonderful experiences of my life.

My style inspirations outside of my own family are Audrey Hepburn and Jackie Onassis and since I’ve moved to Chicago I’ve developed some major style crushes on a few Chicago area bloggers, including Dasha Guyton of Windycitywardrobe, Audrey Tiam of agirlhastwonames, and, of course, this blog, Stile.foto.cibo!  I have a style, and really a lifestyle crush on a couple of LA bloggers who I follow, Troy Solomon of abearnamedtroy who has the most amazingly badass style and hair I’ve ever seen, and a giant style crush on LA blogger Amina Mucciolo of studiomucci, even though her style is really different than my own. I love the way that she puts together colors and patterns and her openness about her struggles with mental health issues. I hope I can be more like her when I grow up. Besides studiomucci and abearnamedroy I follow Nikki Padula from the.ample out of New York. Everything she wears is amazing and I just want to follow her around and ask for shoe and lingerie recommendations, so I can look as fabulous as she does. I also just am absolutely in love with everything Eloquii puts on their blog and in their stores. I haven’t seen a bad piece from them yet. They’re so thoughtful about draping, pattern, and lines on plus size women while still keeping their clothing on trend and high fashion.  I draw inspiration from a lot of places, people, and bloggers from CA to NY so that by no means is an exhaustive list of the babes who I follow and love.

My style has not only changed over the years since first seeing my aunt in her colorful house dresses, but has really been evolving by leaps and bounds in just the past months and even weeks. The explosion of the plus size fashion industry has just made so many things possible that were never even an option for women over a size 12. When I was younger I used to wear black clothing a lot. Mostly black tank tops and jeans because I didn’t know what to do with my body that no longer fit into any of the clothes I liked, or if it did it did so just barely and was too short to completely cover my stomach and wouldn’t go around my super chubby arms. I often got dress code violations at school in middle school and high school because of this. As I’ve gotten older and the options for plus size style have become so much better, I’ve gotten to explore things I never thought I would like shift dresses, sequins, body con silhouettes, and velvet and enjoy taking photos of myself in these pieces and sharing them with others. Some of my favorite pieces now are things that just 5 years ago I would have said I could never wear that in a million years.

My favorite pieces in my closet currently are mostly dresses because I’m feminine as fuck and also bigger on the bottom than the top so it makes it easier to shop when I stick to dresses (secretly I’m also a little lazy and dresses make it look like I put more effort in than I actually did). The piece that’s featured here is actually one of my new favorites that I just got on Cyber Monday at Eloquii. In my haul from Eloquii on Cyber Monday I also got a white, puff sleeved, button down shirt from their summer collection that has beading and sequins on the collar. Another great thing about the recent boom in plus size fashion: collars that fit my fat neck and actually button all the way up. Beyond my haul from Eloquii, I have a bright blue velvet wrap dress that I bought from Asos last year that I am so in love with and am really enjoying being able to wear in Chicago this winter (where I’m from in Watsonville, CA it never gets cold enough to be able to wear a long-sleeved velvet dress all day). I also just recently got a dark green sequined skirt from Charlotte Russe. I’m dying to find a holiday party to wear that to.   

My style has developed around my cultural identity as a Puerto Rican woman since I was a fairly young child but my style development around my identity as a bisexual woman and a femme took somewhat longer. I started recognizing my own queerness around 8th grade and came out to the people I thought were my friends that same year. I subsequently found out they weren’t actually my friends as I didn’t have many left after that. I didn’t come out to my family until the beginning of college and that aunt that I told you about? The one who I love with all my heart and whose style really jumpstarted my own interest in fashion? She went to her deathbed thinking that my bisexuality was a phase that I would eventually get over. It actually wasn’t until the year after I finished college that I found out that 1. Femmes and the femme community existed 2. Fat femmes of color were a thing and they were glorious as fuck 3. I had a lot in common with the femme community and I wanted to join them. I discovered that in the bay area fat femmes of color had meet ups and was invited to attend a few events in the bay where fat femmes and fat women got together to talk, swap clothes, enjoy fashion shows and each other’s’ company. My world was blown wide open. I saw women in a million different styles and sizes who were playing and taking risks in fashion, who were strong, and fierce, and amazing, and smart, and interesting. The identity of femme has come to guide my fashion choices in knowing that I am part of this community of other amazing femmes who are kicking ass and taking names in the fashion industry and are forging a path for the baby femmes who are coming behind us.

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Sarah Graywood, Fat.Fem.Flawless

Sarah Graywood, Fat.Fem.Flawless

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